Sunday, June 28, 2015

Connecting



Several days ago, I found out that one of my friends is receiving hospice care.  Often, I connect with people by making them a card or providing them with something to eat. Earlier today, I sat down to make my friend a few cards, in a color that she loves, but I do not.  She does not have much energy for visitors, but I thought I would share some lessons I've learned about visiting with people who are in the midst of loss.  

First, be willing to be quiet and just BE with them.  In this day and age, people are particularly uncomfortable with silence.  I continually remind myself that there's a reason God gave me two ears and one mouth.  Listening is vitally important whether your friend is in hospice, has lost a pet, or a job.  

Second, refrain from saying things like 'I know just how you feel.'  You probably don't.  How could you?  You aren't them.  A better follow-up to the ubiquitous 'How are you?' is 'That sounds . . .'   Fill in the blank with words where you acknowledge what they have shared.  If you are feeling brave and your acquaintance is being particularly chatty, open the door with the phrase 'Tell me more about that. . .'

Third, consider bringing your friend a little something - their favorite fruit, a CD with their favorite music, a book by their favorite author, and so on.  Loss - in its various forms - can be lonely.  Ultimately, most important thing you bring your friend is YOU.

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Booked

Most of these books – read over the past year or so – have a faith component.  Still, I don’t know whether my choice of books is typical.  I am single by choice and I’ve never been to a Women’s Retreat or attended a Bible Study where people gather in a large room and watch a DVD.  I read about topics that interest me.

FALLING INTO PLACE: A MEMOIR OF OVERCOMING

Hattie Kauffman, in 1989, was the first Native American correspondent to have a story appear on a network news program.  Falling Into Place is the story of not only her career in television news with CBS and ABC but also the story of growing up in a poor family with seven children and two alcoholic parents.   Hattie struggles with alcoholism as an adult, her husband divorces her, and she wrestles with faith issues.  I heard Hattie interviewed on a Moody Radio program and bought the book (used on Amazon) because it did not sound like the typical inspirational tear jerker.  It was a great book with a redemptive theme, but I wish it had been a little longer.

GO TELL IT: HOW AND WHY TO REPORT GOD’S STORIES IN WORDS, PHOTOS AND VIDEOS

Authors Jim Killiam and Lincoln Brunner, in the introduction to Go Tell It, state ‘This book is for anyone working in and around missions who wants to learn a few basic techniques for telling better stories via the written word, photography, and video.  It’s especially for anyone who wants to pose two questions that can change lives:  What is God up to?  How can I get in on it?’

I resonated with this quote from the first page of the photography chapter.  ‘But at its core, good photography is about composition, lighting and intuition.  The best photographers can do that with a $25 Hello Kitty camera.  The worst can’t accomplish it with a $10,000 DSLR.’ Amen.

If I were giving advice to missionaries and people starting faith-based non-profits, I’d tell them to share their story in the way they feel most comfortable.  Just share it!  Your supporters and friends won’t know what you are doing if you don’t share with them.  If you need help telling your story, ask someone to help you.  With the growth of online blogs, Facebook, email attachments and the like – issues with printing and postage are a thing of the past.

I purchased Go Tell It to learn how to use social media – Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and the like – to tell faith stories.  The authors – surprisingly – did not touch on social media.  The information contained in the book was quite good – but I have a journalism degree – so it wasn’t new.



ISAIAH: FEELING SECURE IN THE ARMS OF GOD

Isaiah: Feeling Secure in the Arms of God is the third Bible study I’ve done by Warren Wiersbe.  Dr. Wiersbe, who served as Senior Pastor at the Moody Church in downtown Chicago and was the teacher on the Back to the Bible radio program, is now in his late-nineties.  He writes particularly insightful life application questions.  It was great and I learned a lot, but any study that addresses Isaiah’s 66 chapters in detail is challenging.  I just finished John: Get to Know the Living Savior.  It was far less mind-numbing, but just as engaging.




LOVED BACK TO LIFE: HOW I FOUND THE COURAGE TO LIVE FREE

Loved Back to Life: How I Found the Courage to Live Free, chronicles Sheila Walsh’s experience living with depression.  Not long after she moved to the United States from Scotland and became a co-host of the 700 Club, Walsh checked into a psychiatric hospital to be treated for depression. 

I have heard Sheila share her story from the platform at a Women of Faith conference, and found it more compelling than Loved Back to Life.  Still, the book contains a powerful message.  If you are struggling with mental illness, get treatment.  

In this day and age, there are still people who remain untreated or inadequately treated for diagnoses such as depression and anxiety.  If you know someone who needs treatment for a psychiatric diagnosis who is hesitant to see a mental health provider, offer to accompany him/her to an appointment.  

Furthermore, if a mental health provider suggest medication, try it!  Psychiatrists write lots of prescriptions for mental health diagnoses, so that's the best place to start. People don't question when a healthcare provider writes a prescription for high blood pressure, for example, but they become uncomfortable when that same provider suggests an antidepressant.  

I'm just a lay person - but I have travelled this road - and I am passionate about encouraging my friends and acquaintances to obtain adequate care.

SAVOR

If I were 20 years younger and still lived in the Chicago suburbs, Shauna Niequist and I could be best friends.  She loves Jesus, writing, cooking for friends, and based on the picture I saw of her kitchen – knows her way around Crate and Barrel.  Savor is a 365 day devotional book that encourages readers to enjoy life wherever they are.  There are conversation starter type questions for each day and recipes scattered throughout the book.

Niequist has written several other books with a food/faith theme including Bittersweet, Cold Tangerines, and Bread & Wine.  Though Bread and Wine is a cookbook, I promise that you won’t find any margarine, imitation whipped topping or green jello anywhere.  She's not that kind of church lady - nor am I.



STITCHES: A HANDBOOK ON MEANING, HOPE AND REPAIR

“Lamott’s …most insightful book yet, Stitches offers plenty of her characteristic witty wisdom…this slim, readable volume [is] a lens on life, widening and narrowing, encouraging each reader to reflect on what it is, after all, that really matters.”—People

I generally love Anne Lamott’s books.  Her latest – Stitches: A Handbook on Meaning, Hope and Repair – not so much.  It’s only 96 pages.  Ordinarily, I’d finish a book like Stitches in an hour or so.  I didn’t finish it.  In short, I don’t agree with People magazine’s assessment of the book.

There are several possible reasons for this.  First, I’m relatively familiar with the subject matter.  Stitches addresses how to put your life back together when it’s coming apart at the seams.  I took a great class called Redemptive Suffering when I was at Denver Seminary.  It was the last class Bruce Demarest taught before he retired.  People who were not enrolled in the class showed up to hear what Dr. Demarest and his compelling guest speakers had to say.  

I’ve also read a number of good books on suffering – most notably A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows through Loss, by Jerry Sittser and A Grief Observed by C. S. Lewis.  Second, I like clear, concise writing.  Stitches is a short book, but it lacks her usual laser-like focus.  Third, Lamott’s books typically contain compelling anecdotes or stories.  Suffering is not funny, but the author has experienced more than her share of challenges and I thought she would share more personal stories than she did.


TALKING TABOO

Talking Taboo: American Christian Women Get Frank About Faith, contains 30+ essays addressing hot-button issues like women in church leadership, domestic violence and male headship in marriage.  Though I am more liberal than many Evangelicals because I support the full-participation of women in church leadership, I’m more conservative than some of the authors that contributed to Talking Taboo.  Still, I thoroughly enjoyed reading about the issues these women dealt with and the questions they ask.  Asking questions is healthy.

Undaunted: Daring to Do What God Calls You to Do
In Undaunted, Australian author Christine Caine chronicles how her faith enabled her to conquer life-long fears and led her to found the A21 Campaign with her husband, Nick. The A21 organization is dedicated to the eradication of human trafficking, a deplorable practice that, most likely, has been going on since the beginning of time.  It also is a hot topic among Evangelicals as of late.  I’m more interested in hunger and access to maternal-child healthcare, but that’s just me.  I had trouble reading this book - not because of the discussion of human trafficking - but because I'm not convinced that I am doing all that God has called me to do/be.

YOU’LL GET THROUGH THIS: HELP AND HOPE FOR YOUR TURBULENT TIMES

I am not a huge fan of Max Lucado’s books.  I much prefer Philip Yancey and John Ortberg’s non-fiction books.  I got You’ll Get Through This as a gift and I really liked the cover illustration – a tiny green plant that has pushed through the cracks in a crumbling cement sidewalk, so I read it. 

Lucado uses the story of Joseph – he of the Technicolor Dreamcoat and those nasty brothers who threw him into a cistern – to encourage Christians who are experiencing challenging times.  Lucado’s point is ‘If God redeemed Joseph, he’ll redeem you.’  He also includes some anecdotes about well-known people who’ve thrived in the midst of chaos.  I LOVE the Joseph story that begins in Genesis 37.  There’s so much good material with real-life applications for kids of all ages.   My advice?  Bypass Lucado and read Joseph’s story straight from the Bible.

RIGHT NOW

Currently, I am reading Vanishing Grace: Whatever Happened to the Good News by Philip Yancey and True Woman 201: Interior Design – Ten Elements of Biblical Womanhood by Mary A. Kassian and Nancy Leigh DeMoss.  So far, I love Yancey’s book.  True Woman 201 is a Bible study that addresses a variety of virtues.  While I don’t agree with Kassian and DeMoss on some issues, this book appears to be as well-written and thought-out as True Woman 101 was and I will get a lot out of it.


Ebenezer prefers picture books.

Wednesday, June 10, 2015

Patio Agriculture


Last Wednesday, I went to King Soopers and purchased four traditional tomato plants designed for container gardening, one cherry tomato plant, and one basil plant.  The tomatoes and the basil came in peat pots which you can place directly into a container with potting soil.  

My mom grew seedlings in first-generation peat pots in the early 1970's.  I think they are fantastic.  The transplant process is painless and I was also able to view how healthy a plant's root structure was/was not before I purchased it.  I had already purchased potting soil and two containers with drainage holes at O'Toole's to go along with the two plastic pots I saved from last year, and roller skates (my term) for each.

I placed my veggies in their new homes early this evening.  All but the cherry tomato survived.  Unbeknownst to me, Ebenezer tipped the cherry tomato plant over late last week.  The peat pot had begun to break apart and the infant plant's roots were fried by the sun.  Oh well.

My friend QQ, who is now a physicist for the Department of Defense, has given me her old digital camera to use.  These are the first pictures I have taken with said camera - and no I did not read the manual or install the editing software.  I promise the next pictures will be better.



Look at the wee tomatoes.


Looking out for bunnies, big and small.
Luckily, I have a great, big black cat.